What does validating yourself mean
The effects of self-discovery include happiness, fulfillment, clarity and maybe even enlightenment! The journey includes fear, confusion, misunderstanding, doubt and literally re-visiting all your choices in life.
I like to refer to it as spring-cleaning of the mind, your emotions and your surroundings (including the people in your life).
For a more interactive learning approach, you might also want to download my OUTRAGE Prediction & Management Interactive Software.
I think it’s wonderful – with the help of Australian programming experts, I managed to create software that would give a client the same advice I’d have given if I were there.
In the mid-1980s I coined the formula “Risk = Hazard Outrage” to reflect a growing body of research indicating that people assess risks according to metrics other than their technical seriousness: that factors such as trust, control, voluntariness, dread, and familiarity (now widely called “the outrage factors”) are as important as mortality or morbidity in what we mean by risk.
My clients tended to imagine that their neighbors, employees, or customers were upset mostly because of media sensationalism or activist distortions or their own ignorance; helping them understand the dynamics of stakeholder outrage was a prerequisite to helping them figure out how to reduce the outrage – mostly how to stop doing the things they were doing that provoked the outrage.
Of course reducing outrage is a socially valuable thing to do only if the outrage is misplaced – that is, if the hazard, the technical risk, is genuinely small.
You learn to co-exist and be okay with his presence and not allow him to control how you act and feel anymore.
What I know for sure is that we are usually our own worst enemy.
We hold ourselves back in so many ways and I am ready to move away from that pattern.
What I know for sure is that I have been very hard on myself for most of my life. And more importantly, why do we allow ourselves to get away with it? " but, we lie to ourselves profusely and even cover up our own lies by accepting them as truth in order to reassure ourselves that it's okay??!?!?! I have always had body image issues yet covered it up by lying to myself. I would convince myself that I was happy with the way I looked when deep down I knew I wasn't.
I have not been truthful with myself and have had unrealistic expectations therefore, setting myself up for disappointment. When someone else lies to me and I find out about it I freak out. I worked so hard to cover up how I really felt by masking my true feelings.