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"While you should have some commonalities, you should find someone who complements you," Tufvesson adds.
"I've done a lot of competitive research, and often [with dating sites], it's, 'Oh, you both like skiing.' That's great, to a certain extent, but what if you want to learn about Middle Eastern politics? What if you want to learn another language and he speaks five?
In the bar scene it's all about your looks; you don't have the luxury of putting your best picture out there because—you're out there—in the flesh.
And if you don't physically appeal to your target objective, forget about it; it won't matter if you've got Anderson Cooper's personality.
And though there are plenty of ways to attract the opposite sexand plenty of bars to check out, it's online dating sites that tend to reap the rewards of the post-holiday slump.
January is a huge month for online dating websites, with Ok Cupid seeing a 30% rise in membership, How About We seeing 40%, and seeing a rise of 55% on January 2nd alone last year.
If the idea of matchmaking strikes you as a horribly antiquated concept in the era of online dating, consider this: a recent study from the University of Michigan determined that couples who met online were less likely to forge committed relationships than those who met IRL (that's "in real life" in pre-Internet terms).
That finding isn't likely to surprise Greta Tufvesson, who cofounded upscale matchmaking service The Bevy along with partner Nikki Lewis.
Tufvesson presents this analogy: "If you drive a BMW and you've driven a BMW since you've had a license, I might say 'I know you like the BMW, but Mercedes has a great new version. '" After all, if you keep seeking out men or women who fit a certain profile without success, why not branch out?Tufvesson insists that she's not completely against more modern methods of seeking out romance but says that if you're looking for a real, genuine love, a steady diet of dating apps and websites can often sideline your relationship goals.Here's why: One fatal flaw with online dating, says Tufvesson, is that it focuses on matching people based on things they have in common.With a careful eye and common sense, finding safe and smart love is possible.One of the top New Year's resolutions is always to find love.